Rec 709 & sRGB

Apologies if this has come up before but I didn’t see anything in my searches.
I recently purchased 2 BenQ PD2500Q monitors and they have (among others) a Rec 709 and sRGB modes...
The Rec 709 mode has ALOT of contrast compared to the sRGB. I realize my monitor hasn’t been calibrated outside of BenQ’s factory setting (though they say it’s individual, I got a certificate and everything lol)
If I grade for Rec 709 it looks OK on my phone but very flat on my TV and my wife’s laptop.
Anyone have any ideas where I could improve to be able to grade so it looks acceptable in both Rec 709 and sRGB?
Ursa Mini Pro RAW 3:1 footage rendered out of a Mac Pro 5,1 with data levels on full (otherwise it renders washed out)
Thanks All!
I recently purchased 2 BenQ PD2500Q monitors and they have (among others) a Rec 709 and sRGB modes...
The Rec 709 mode has ALOT of contrast compared to the sRGB. I realize my monitor hasn’t been calibrated outside of BenQ’s factory setting (though they say it’s individual, I got a certificate and everything lol)
If I grade for Rec 709 it looks OK on my phone but very flat on my TV and my wife’s laptop.
Anyone have any ideas where I could improve to be able to grade so it looks acceptable in both Rec 709 and sRGB?
Ursa Mini Pro RAW 3:1 footage rendered out of a Mac Pro 5,1 with data levels on full (otherwise it renders washed out)
Thanks All!